Tips to support children at home

Top Tips

  • Stay Calm, even when you feel your own anger rise. Remember you are your child’s primary educators and role models. Whatever they see/hear from you they will see as ‘the thing to do’. If they are showing behaviour which challenges, take a breath, lower your voice, speak calmly/quietly to them.
  • Sleep is extremely important – follow a structured relaxed bedtime routine such as bath time, story, milk etc, and try not to let your child get overtired.
  • Everyone caring for your child must be consistent i.e. Parents, grandparents, Diggers, etc with clear boundaries for them
  • Flip the balance of attention – give LOTS of praise for the behaviours you desire and ignore where possible the behaviour you don’t want. The words ‘well done’ and ‘good girl/boy’ must be banned from your vocabulary! Replace these with praising the activity ‘I’m so proud of you using your kind hands’ or ‘you were so patient’, ‘good drinking up’, ‘lovely walking feet’. Turning all negatives into positives.
  • If they are angry/sad give them the names of the emotions ‘I can see you are feeling cross/angry’ or ‘that mad me sad, did it make you feel sad’, ‘I think I need to take a deep breath, do you?’
  • Practice breathing/calming exercises with your child when they are calm counting to 5 if you think they may be receptive to this. It’s a good way to practice calming skills.
  • Share stories such as The Colour Monster – Anna Ilenas, Tiger has a Tantrum – Sue Graves, Anna Angrysaurus – Brian Moses
  • 1:1 Play Time – Ideally at the same time each day. Only needs to be 20 mins to 1 hour. Organise a box of ‘special toys’ that are reserved for the 1:1 play and not accessed at other times. You could get your child to help you decorate a box. The 1:1 play must be led by them, there must be no technology involved i.e. no TV, mobile phones, iPads etc on in the background. Just them, a parent, the box, conversation, and play. You may find the first few days they struggle to know what to do and will need you to lead by showing them what is in the box. But as soon as possible let them lead the play in whatever direction they want it to take even if that is making a den in an obscure place and you are squeezing yourself in! At the end of the allotted time, you explain calmly that special play time is finished for the day and the toys are replaced in the box with their help. Tell them it’ll be the same time tomorrow. Ignore any tantrum that may ensue by busying yourself and repeating that the special time will happen again tomorrow.

In Diggers

  • This information has been shared with the team and they will keep the manager informed as to your child’s behaviour at Diggers on a regular basis
  • Give your child’s key person details of their current interests so they can be included in the planning
  • Record worries and concerns in the link book to share with your key person or use email/telephone/zoom meetings to discuss things further. Try not to talk about behaviour in ear shot of your child.

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